Relationships of Working with Military Couples
The globe has been changing with time in terms of wars and we can point out that most of the military officers have been busier than ever before. The most affected areas are the Middle East and Africa. In this case, therefore, most of the military personnel are always away from their families for a relatively long period of time. With regard to these trends, the current paper seeks to highlight and give a detailed description of demands related to couples in the military, the system concepts that are relevant to these military couples and then give a description of how to implement two treatment approaches to military couples.
The Demands Unique to Military Couples
The challenges that the military couples go through can be broadly categorized into two: ambiguous absence and ambiguous presence; the former is when the partner is physically away but emotionally present, while in the later, it is when the partner is present physically but psychologically absent (Faber, Willerton, Clymer, MacDermid, & Weiss, 2008).
This is a loss in which the partner who is deployed to war away from home is physically away but he/she is perceived to be psychologically present. At this point, the spouse has to stretch family boundaries and try temporary to reassign the roles of the absent partner in order to make him or him/her still psychologically viable.
Safety is considered to be a major source of worry of the other partner. This is where the other partner is constantly worried about the safety of the military officer. At times, they are shocked when they learn about bombing and attacks in the area of deployment and they keep on worrying whether the person is still dead or alive. When they learn that he/she is still alive, they are now stressed on the security of a person, his/her condition, as well as when the person is coming back.
Role shifts become inevitable since the spouse is forced to take roles of decision making and adding other roles of the absent partner, which is difficult. While making decisions they had to contemplate on how the other partner would have reacted to that decision. It is also disappointing when a partner writes to ask how they should solve a certain problem and he/she is told to wait till the other person comes, so that they can do it together (Faber et al., 2008).
Difficulty in getting timely and trustworthy information is also another challenge that these couples go through (Faber et al., 2008). In most cases, the government is very secretive and may willingly fail to give the crucial information to the other partner, either due to the fear that the partner may be terrified or the information might leak to wrong individuals.
This is a loss that explains the time the military officer returns back to the family, whereby the person is physically present but psychologically absent. This is the time they take to re-establish themselves with other partner.
Stressful reunion in the resumption of roles is common. Upon the arrival of military personnel, the other partner is uncertain on when he/she is going to take back his/her roles. (Faber et al., 2008). One is unsure whether to ask him/her to take back his/her roles or to give them more time. Also the military personnel wonder on how to take up his/her responsibilities and how it will affect the other partner.
Relational communication becomes strained, since one partner was used to being independent and was not used to giving the whereabouts of where he/she was going or even in decision-making communication was discrete, such that only necessary information was given out. It takes time for the two to shift from a closed to open communication and reconnect together in running of their affairs, especially in decision making (Faber et al., 2008).
Marital intimacy is another challenge among couples in the military. Veterans are unable to experience and expresses emotions and this leads to difficulty in romantic relationships, (Monson, Taft, & Fredman, 2009). Candice and colleagues also state that they may have emotional aggression and hyperarousal, as well as the manifestation of physical aggression towards the partner.
The Systems Concepts Pertinent to Military Couples
On the one hand, in the situation, where one partner from a couple is being deployed, a lot of things begin to change and not only to the two of them but also to their children. In this case, therefore, it is crucial to come up with a mechanism of safeguarding all the family members, so that they are not overwhelmed by the events of before, during and after deployment. In this case, therefore, it would be important to apply family system theory (Blaisure, 2016). On the other hand, the veterans show a lot of courage and resilience, while in the field of adversities but are full of difficulties and stress upon redeployment, hence finding it difficult to reintegrate with the family. Due to these difficulties, it is necessary to include resilience theory as an equally important approach (Gewirtz, Erbes, Polusny, Forgatch, & DeGarmo, 2011). Both treatments attempt to cater for family life before deployment during and also after deployment periods.
Implementation of Treatment Approaches with Military Couples
Family System Approach
Family system approach is the best as far as the whole family is concerned (Blaisure, 2016). To the couple, their children are part and parcel of their lives and what children do or ask affects them. I will, therefore, encourage the couple to ensure that the children are well prepared to allow them to lead a continued life with or without one of the parents (Gewirtz et al., 2011). Gewirtz and the colleagues also point out that it is the role of parents to help children cope with the situation. I would encourage the parents to practice frequent family meetings and get together to create and enhance a sense of belonging and in the process to reduce the level of anxiety (Blaisure, 2016). During this time, I would encourage the couple to ensure they spend most of the time together as a family with one partner trying to assume the role of the other partner, so that by the time of deployment, he/she will be comfortable with undertaking those responsibilities. It will also enable both partners to be relaxed in their everyday duties, since the veteran partner will be aware of the family routine. Children should also be encouraged to try and work out some of the light roles done to them by the parent, so that by the time of deployment, they will get used to them and this will help in the transition, as well as creating a platform for reintegration. The advantage of family system approach is that it prepares the partner and entire family for the exit, how to deal with deployment period and swift reintegration.
Resilient Theory Approach
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This is an approach I will engage the couple in, so as to ensure the family stays compact and remains settled, while one of the partners is away. Through this approach, the other partner together with the family achieves successful transformation (Sensiba & Franklin, 2015). It has three main aspects that include: enhancing stress recovery, improving positivity and flexibility (Waugh & Koster, 2015). Both parties will be prone to minor stress from time to time and this is why I will be very critical in bringing this approach forth, so that I can ensure that the recovery from such minor shocks is recovered, so as not to culminate into complexity. The aspect of improving positivity is to enable both parties to focus on the positive side of life and try to see things in a good way. The partner at home should always have hope that the significant other will be back in due time, rather than having his/her mind crowded with how bad the place of deployment is and that he/she might not come back. The other aspect is flexibility and I would emphasize to the couple how important it is. This is the one that helps both parties to adopt to new changes that absence of the other person brings. In this case, the partner in deployment should be flexible to adapt to the new environment he/she finds him/herself. He/she should be willing to make new friends and try to adapt to the culture of that place in order to enjoy his/her stay. The other partner at home should be able to enhance his/her networks and try to make friendship with the neighbors so that when the need arises, he/she will get people to be there for him/her both financially and emotionally.
I will deeply sympathize to the couples in the military and consider them as a special group in our society who needs to be understood. What they go through is hard and not many can have the strength to withstand. We can see the challenges they go through starting with anxiety before deployment, then during deployment and also during reintegration period. Both family system and resilience approaches are aimed at helping the couples lead a life of confidence and positivity. Finally, since the military is a job, just like any other, I would recommend the government to put up counseling centers to offer to counsel to both the military veteran and his/her partner and the entire family, while society should show them love and appreciation since they are serving their country as true patriots.
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